I began writing this blog several years ago. I was motivated to write about my life because I felt like I had no real direction; I wasn’t sure if I would ever figure out who I was, where I wanted to be, and with whom I wanted to spend my time. Now, so many years later, I guess I finally found mediocrity. It’s the best feeling ever. It’s the happiest I’ve ever been…what more can I really say about that?
I’ve been apprehensive about writing this particular blog post because I just don’t feel that I can do it justice. The pursuit of happiness has served a long-standing purpose in the overall theme of this blog—and to quote the great Hemingway, I suppose I’ve finally found my Clean, Well Lighted Place. Five years to mediocrity has finally arrived…and I gotta say, five years kinda felt like a really long time.
Getting married is about as mediocre as it gets. I only say that because so many people do it. There’s certainly nothing unique about marriage. But, there’s still something unique about it for us, considering that we couldn’t have done it just a few years ago. That, and, I’ve just married the absolute love of my life and my very best friend.
She told me I would cry. I told her there was no way I would cry in front of all those people. But, when I looked at my mom, who was beginning to cry, and then at her mom, who was beginning to cry, I completely lost my composure.
Then, I saw LB. She looked so beautiful, and she looked so happy. How incredible it feels to know that I’m able to bring so much happiness into someone else’s life…someone I love so very much.
The ceremony was amazing. It was everything I could have ever hoped for. My family, her family, our family is amazing. Our friends are amazing. For me, getting married to LB felt more like marrying a whole lot of people. Family is so important to me and hers is so wonderful, it’s easy to feel emotional about making those vows in front of them. I know LB is ecstatic to become a part of my family, and that’s something I’ve always loved about her.
It was really difficult to ask so many people to drive or fly from so far away to be a part of our wedding. But, we asked, and they came. Our best friends and closest family members traveled from coast-to-coast for us, and that’s something I can’t quite find the words to express my gratitude for. But, believe me, I’m grateful.
I got a huge hug from Jackson at the altar, which was exactly what I was hoping for. He was the ring bearer, and when granddad told him to give the rings to “Tina”, he was very upset when LB promptly took them from me. He pointed at LB’s dress and said, “Princess?” Then, he scowled momentarily before reaching over to take back the rings from LB and said, “No, those are for Tina!”
And, watching Ethan navigate the aisle was priceless. My girls were there: baby Sam, Chloe, Lily, Sara, and Emily. And, Brody was quite the little man, escorting Chloe down the aisle.
My cousin Lauren serenaded us with a beautiful song, and then Chloe stood up to sing the entire theme song from the movie Frozen— in front of more than a hundred people.
Little Sam followed LB around for two days, which LB LOVED, and eventually Sam gave her the nickname “Whimsy”, which I LOVE. It’s a win-win.
My parents are so supportive and wonderful. I’m also having trouble finding the words to thank them. How can I thank two people who spent their entire lives working to ensure I would have a happy, healthy life? There is no way I could ever begin to thank them appropriately, but I will do everything I can to ensure that they’re always proud of us—and of our choices.
My dad gave an incredibly heartfelt speech, in which he told me that he was more proud of me than he had ever been. Again, there aren’t words to describe the way I felt at that moment.
My brother also gave an amazing speech, which made me incredibly proud to have such an awesome relationship with him. Hearing him talk about the bond we shared as kids, and now as adults, was something I will never forget. He’s not always as forthcoming about his feelings as I am, but on our wedding day he showed me that our relationship has only gotten stronger since LB entered my world. What more can I really ask for in life?
My only regret was that our dogs couldn’t wear bow ties and accompany us down the aisle. That, and maybe a magic carpet; I’ve always wanted one of those. But don’t worry, we took the dogs to the moon, and I will post plenty of pictures of that trip soon.
Now, I constantly tease LB that she’s my old ball and chain; she usually just laughs and teases me back. Really, the joke’s on her…she’s stuck with me now. But, the truth is, I feel so lucky in life (and in love) that I could spend the rest of my life trying to pay it forward and never even come close.
We love you guys, and we are so thankful for everything you did to make this day absolutely perfect. Thank you all for helping me to finally find my way to mediocrity.